What does the future really hold?

It seems the older we get the harder decisions we face. We make decisions without knowing the outcome and leaving us in more of a despair than before. I remember as little girl the hardest decision I had to make was whether to get an M&M or Oreo McFlurry (I ended up getting both). The choices we make lead us to our future, take for example your new Sedan you might not have had it if you didn’t take the extra shift from Betty or even the simple fact that you wouldn’t be eating Mexican tonight if you hadn’t married Jenny over Diana.  Once upon a time there was a time much simpler than now but we grew up and its time for us to make smarter, wiser, and better choices for the sake of our future. When making decision keep in mind there are no crystal balls in life, so there is no way to know what lies in the future. Attempting to predict the future is a largely frustrating and are pointless endeavor. You can only make the best decision based on the available information, and your present feelings. Also, recognize that this isn’t your final decision on your career and life; you will have many “forks in the road” ahead of you and few are irreversible (except parenthood). That should help put the decision in perspective and reduce its feeling of enormity. Lastly something I personally turn back during my time of despair is God (or for others a “higher being”). I mean what not of a better way to raise our hands and talk to the Lord himself. Its remarkable to be able to have that kind of connection with the creator of all creation. “Oh God, if my intended action is better for my religion and my faith,for my life and my death, for this world and the next, then make it destined and easy for me, and give me your blessing for it.”

Making the invisible visible

Imagine living in pain all day long, some days better than others but constantly being in pain. Imagine always being tired even after you had your 8 hours of sleep. Now imagine that being real for hundreds of thousands of individuals, they suffer an illness that is invisible to doctors. I thought it was time for me to share my story. I suffer with a chronic condition only known to few, fibromyalgia. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia about a year ago. I’ve been experiencing the pains associated with fibromyalgia since I’ve been in diapers but it wasn’t till November 2012 when it shook my world. I was sick in bed from the flu, but my bad case of the flu had left me never being the same. I wasn’t too worried at first but within a week I wasn’t able to get up from the incredible pain that spread from my lower back to the very tip of my toes leaving me like a helpless rag doll. For those who are unfamiliar with the term let me take a brief second to shed some light on fibromyalgia and explain a little bit about the pain associated with it. Fibromyalgia: It varies from patient to patient but for most it’s an unexplained pain throughout the whole body causing weakness in the joints and bones. So how exactly does it feel to live with fibromyalgia? Well like I said earlier it varies from person to person and even day to day and that could be the exact reason why doctors find it hard to classify it as an illness. But the best way I can put it is, imagine your body is a paper that is crumble up into a ball and you just want to stretch it out but you can’t due to all the pain, some days the pain feel like a hammer shattering your bones other days its feels like you’re lit on fire while being stabbed by millions of micro sized needles. Ouch! After being in bed for a week or two my mom decided we best go to the doctor (after I insisted we don’t), to my disappointment the doctor told me it was all in my head and with frustration I went in to my dark hole of pain. A couple days later my doctor gave us a call saying to come in right away for a blood test. Well did they test me…That one blood test flipped my life around, day in and day out I was a living example of a genuine pig. It took 3 incorrect diagnostic, 6 visits to the hospital, 8 visits to my doctor and 22 medical test to finally find out what was wrong with me.  For 2 years I had doors slammed in my face and doctors rejecting my calls, but when I was finally diagnosed with fibro it wasn’t tears of denial but rather tears of joy, it was relief to know that the pain I was experiencing was associated with something. The worst part of me being diagnosed with fibromyalgia wasn’t that it was incurable but more the fact that I couldn’t tell a soul because they wouldn’t understand an illness that was labeled as “fake” according to doctors. It was a secret between the specialist who diagnosed me, my mom and me,and we kept it like that for several months. I couldn’t explain to my friends my absents due to my pains or the fact why I was falling asleep even after I slept early the night before or simply why I couldn’t play a little game of soccer. Almost everything and anything made me tired whether it was driving, hanging out with my friends or watching a movie. To add to that the pain increased and spread like a wildfire throughout my whole body making it difficult to do simple tasks. I never realized  how much I took for granted until every little task became painful to do because of the chronic pain. Before I could collect myself I fell into the same dark hole of stress, anxiety and depression and I slowly started breaking apart. Here’s the thing with fibromyalgia its incurable meaning once you have it you have it forever, there are medication to reduce the pain but nothing to make it go away. I was put on 4 different medications for my fibromyalgia and none of them worked. The only medication that helped me was my faith. My relationship with God had strengthen and with that God had made my experience with fibromyalgia most bearable. An old friend of mine once told me God gives hardships to his strongest soldiers and I want to thank that friend who taught me to be strong and had my back during my rough times. Though at the time I didn’t understand why I had gone through so much within the past 4 months but now that I look back at it I’m grateful to have been surrounded by the great circle of friends and family and I want to thank each every great soul that have crossed in my path, whether we have drifted apart or not (I honestly don’t know where I would be without you all). I’m doing a lot better now though there are times when I can’t control my cringing hands, or my slumber hours in class and I don’t know if I’ll ever be 100% better but at this moment I’m living. I’m on a journey that might not ever end but I want to thank all my friends and family for understanding, thank you for being patient with me and especially a big thank you to my amazing mother who has suffered a lot for me, she is truly God’s gift to me. Thank you mom for being by my side when I had no one, thank you for keeping me well fed when I denied to eat, thank you for rushing me into the hospital on those late nights, thank you for paying for those expensive hospital bills and medications, and most importantly thank you for not giving up on me. The purpose of sharing my story isn’t for piety (in fact save your tears), I chose to share this with you all because I want to remind everyone that in life we face many different hardships and we tend to forget the things we have in front of us. Everyday is a challenge but you won’t get anywhere if you let yourself give up, defeat odds and just live. Thank you once again for it wasn’t easy sharing this but if I can save one life than I have accomplished my goal. Please kindly share this and check out the sites below.                        Help fibromyalgia be visible.

http://www.fmcpaware.org/tumblr_n5hjb2tqTi1ro7bkfo1_500

http://www.nfra.net/

http://www.theacpa.org/condition/fibromyalgia

http://www.afsafund.org/joinafsa.htm

A Muslim’s Guide to Surviving Heartbreak

Love Haqtually

*Disclaimer: Author’s identity has been kept anonymous.

Sometimes in life you meet someone who makes you smile from the inside out. A person who you may never want to imagine a life without. Someone who ticks all of your boxes, makes you happy, makes you think about what you would both name your children and whether they’d have the eyes of their father or the smile of their mother. It’s beautiful when it lasts. We humans were made to love. Love our families, friends and our soulmates when and if we happen to meet them. As easily as we may begin to have feelings for someone, circumstances can present obstacles. Each moment that follows can make the difference between whether this special person becomes a part of your life permanently or not.

Recently I was considering someone for marriage quite seriously. A person whom I was sure was the one…

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#OurThreeWinners

Dear Deah,

You’ve lived the life that many dream to live. You’ve striven for excellence while the rest of us failed. You’ve made thousands rethink the way of life and made nations move. You’ve soften the hard hearts. You’ve inspired millions. Though many of us haven’t met you we still share the same love. The love of God.

Dear Yusor,

I wish I could have met you all but it wasn’t meant in the path of Allah which he has created for us, instead it was meant for me to do what you couldn’t finish, my dream is your dream. I have made an oath to myself to not only dream but to do. I swear to God I will do.

Dear Razan,

Hundreds might forget but I won’t, I won’t forget what America’s terrorist did to you. I will make sure the rest the world won’t forget what happened on February 10, 2015. It shook nations and will forever leave a scar as we lost 3 beautiful heroes.

Lessons They Will Never Teach You in School

  • There’s more than one path in life                                                                                                               We often forget that life has many different paths for us. In school we are taught that there is one way and one way only to be successful but the truth is success can be define many different ways.
  • School doesn’t prepare you for real life                                                                                                        Preparation for the “real world” is crucial for future professions, for the last 14 years of going to school all I have been doing is memorizing a bunch of facts that have been pointless to my future. The school system is missing the key to success in life and that is the skills needed to survive the big world in which we are only insignificant grain to.
  • No one in the real world cares about your GPA                                                                                            Its true the “real world” could care less what your grade point average was in high school, You were top ten? Who cares…
  • Failing isn’t always a bad thing                                                                                                                       I can’t emphasis how important this one is to all the students out there. We have been brainwashed to thinking failing is unacceptable but in all honesty failing is a way of life and it motivates others to push forward and grow from their past experience.
  • Stop aiming for perfection                                                                                                                               I know way too much people who have tried to be “perfect” but the funny thing is there is no such thing as perfect in the “real world,” so stop diagnosing yourself as a “perfectionist.”
  • You’ll never be good at everything                                                                                                                Again, with the whole being good at everything, but in reality the only thing you can be good at is in the things you put your effort in.
  • Your health is your most important resource                                                                                                   I learned this the hard way. There’s not much to say other than your health is your #1 priority no matter what comes in the way, your health is never something to play with.
  • All work and no play makes you a dull person                                                                                              For god sake life is too short to always work, there is time for study and there is also a time to have fun. As humans we are built to handle stress but there is a point were our body needs to just relax. Listen to what your body is telling you and if you need to just go out and have fun.
  •  Going to bed early                                                                                                                                There’s no shame in going to sleep at 9 PM. Life gets crazier as we get older so the best time to sleep early is now, trust me its trending #sleepearly
  • Surround yourself with inspiring people                                                                                                        The people you surround yourself really say a lot about you as a person. I found from my own personal experience that being around people who achieve for big things inspire me to dream big. Never settle for less when it comes to your friends its like making investment, so choose wisely, like my mom used to say, “You can’t choose your family but you CAN choose your friends.”

The Truth of The Real World

“Don’t let the school system define you, stand out and be miraculous.” –Lina Mohammed

One word. School. The word itself just gives most a headache. Why we hate it so much? The longer we go to school the more we are praised for yet we choose the easy way out. We are constantly reminded that it’s to prepare us for the “real world,” but is it really? This is how an average person’s life goes…he is born and nurtured by his mom till the age 4 then he is sent to pre-school (more for fun then to learn) then he continues his elementary years from the age of 5-11 years old and within those 6 years he learns his multiplication tables, ABC’s, The United States’ Presidents by heart, and the process of how to conduct a science experiment “properly”. Then he moves on to middle school/junior high learning little more about himself and his talents which one might be sweeping girls off their feet (or at least he thinks so) and here he also learns how hard it is to speak a foreign language. He might even come to find out he has some kind of interest in art and hope to use it in the future. Then of course, he moves on to high school aka the bottomless pit of hell that involves raging hormones and awkward stages of puberty and just when he thought it couldn’t get any harder he takes chemistry and doesn’t care how he passes just as long as he does, he wanted to take an art course but he knew his parents wouldn’t be very happy so instead he took an engineering class knowing his parents would be very proud of him, he finds out how ugly the world is in AP World History just like his new group of friends, he joins some engineering and robotics club and within a blink of an eye high school is over. Or is it really over? Though he’s been in school for about 15 years he still doesn’t have enough knowledge to move on to the “real world.” Pause. This kid has been in school for more than half his life and he still doesn’t acquire the skills to go to this “real world” everyone is talking about? Let me burst the bubble, if you haven’t noticed we already live in this “real world” so why are teachers preparing us for something we already know about? For 15 years we learn just the basics and you’re saying it takes another 10 years or so to actually get the skills needed to be successful? WHY? Why does it take so long to get a degree and start pursuing our careers when in reality, life as we know it is …well… short? Once we have reached 25 we start our careers and then all of a sudden our hearts realize and decide that we feel lonely and we begin to desire an “other half”. Once we have found that person, at about 30 years old, we decide we want to start a family. We THEN have to take a break in our careers till our kids grow up and once they do, they will then have to start the vicious cycle that we too went through all over again. You know, it’s really funny how we complain about this whole entire cycle, but in the end we ourselves put our kids in that same exact tiring cycle that we went through. To summarize into perspective the angle I’m trying to make clear is that on average humans tend to go to school for about 20-23 years only to work for about another 10 years on average. NOW do you see what I mean? What if I told you I’m not going to college because I don’t think it’s necessary for me? Say that I’ve been offered a head start in my career. In addition to that what if I also told you by the time you finish college and start your career I would have made triple the amount you would make in 10 years, becoming far more successful than you will ever be. Would you join me? Would you join me knowing that I didn’t go to college, not achieving any distinguished degree? All I have with me is some life lessons and a book. No, not your 11th grade US History book, but a holy book. How did I do it you ask? Let me tell you a secret that might shock you: college isn’t for everyone. Pause for all the parents’ high-pitched cries of disagreement. The reality of it all is this; just because you didn’t go to college DOES NOT mean you can’t be successful. Look, for god sake, at the creator of WordPress, Matt Mullenweg who dropped out of Houston University in 2004 and is now controlling 16% of the web! So before I end this extremely long and boring post I want to remind you all not to let others tell you what to do or control your future. Follow your passion and do what makes you feel right. If you can’t find a path to follow MAKE ONE. Only you can leave the lasting marks in this world my friend.